It all started the moment I noticed holes in the bottom of my moms’ shoes.
Glancing at the kitchen table, I remembered the weekend she spent skipping meals for the sake of her student’s papers.
As I continued through to the living room, I instantly recalled my mother sitting on the floor, hot-gluing rhinestones on my pageant dress at 2 am!! (mind you, she had choir later that morning).
This is what I defined as being a strong black woman with unshakable superpowers! You know, a caring mother who holds it down on behalf of her loved ones. She was head of the household with very little support towards everyday living.
In reality, momma was running on E. Operating on autopilot; there wasn’t space and time dedicated to tap within to figure out her current wants and needs, which led to multiple burnouts and emotional bottling.
Given my awareness of my household, when going to my friend’s homes I noticed similarities; survival mode.
According to a Mental Health America study, African-Americans are more likely to believe depression is “normal.” In fact, another study done by them, revealed that 56 percent of black people believe depression is a normal part of aging.
In the midst of all those observations, I have fond memories of my mom being calm and at ease.
From chanting, to singing opera, and crafting, my mom was in her flow state. I often reminded her to make appointments with herself and put her “superwoman cape” to rest; to explore her softness and to just be.
All of these experiences led me to become obsessed with wanting to know precisely how women mastered the art of self-fulfillment and emotional intelligence.
How can one manage to bounce back from challenging circumstances and still show nothing but love for themselves and their communities?
On my quest to collect answers, I discovered the need for a dedicated space for women to practice self-care with others. Self-care alone is not enough. The Bodhi & Lace platform is for women to spark creativity and exhilaration while on their path to inner peace.
It’s a forever process, so why not throw some glitter on it and make it fun?
I imagine a world where black women can no longer use the excuse of “I don’t have time” to replenish their souls. So I designed a serene space where one can engage in flow by meditating, journaling, and tapping into their creativity through DIY projects.
It’s a labor of love to create a mindful experience for my community, and I have no intention of slowing down.
I lead with love and purpose.
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